Saturday, July 1, 2017

Awakening Can Be Hard On Relationships

A common complaint I read about in Awakening communities is that awakened people are having a hard time relating to non-awakened beings.  I can tell you this is one of the most difficult parts to go through during the process towards enlightenment and self-actualization.  For many, they will seem crazy to their friends and family as the mind expands and the self takes over.

Up until now, newly awakened beings have been using their egos to interact with the egos of other beings.  Once you recognize your ego and false self, you begin to see it in others as well.  Your distaste for your ego will come out when you see the same traits in others.  This is why it is so difficult to deal with those close to us at this stage.  Their ego is trying to interact with yours, but because you are in the process of dissolving your ego, your self often interacts, and our egos want control of everything.

Once you begin observing the ego in others, your frustration level with them will rise and you will likely see more conflict with those close to you.  Although this can be a troublesome time in the process, it benefits you in two ways: you will learn to better control your 'self', and you will find out who your true friends and family are.  They are the ones that stick with you no matter how crazy you may seem at the time.

We are opened up to a plethora of information in a very short time, and our self's urge to help others explodes, so we try to explain all of the new information to anyone who will listen.  Remember that you are talking to ego most of the time, and it will reject most of the information you are sharing because it does not want to be recognized as the false self. My first suggestion is to work on self reflection as much as possible at this stage, while enjoying solitude when you can find it, so that you can recharge and process.

It is also a common complaint that awakened ones are losing everyone around them and that they are feeling alone.   My second suggestion is similar to the first, but add in some one-on-one time with yourself and learn to be the best of friends.  When you love yourself you are never lonely, even when you are alone.

If you are experiencing some of this or have a family member that has these types of symptoms, it will pass.  Some take longer than others, but the goal is the same, and one way or another this process ends.

For the awakened ones, observe everything and say little. You will be happier and so will all of the egos you are surrounded by(hopefully keeping your relationships stable during this time). If you have been feeling alone I will say this, I believe you will begin finding others around you soon who are having similar experiences and thoughts.

Every human will go through this process during this evolutionary awakening, so we must be patient, because everyone is suffering through their own path, and every path is different. The coolest part is that they all end in the same place, with differing results i expect.
If we can't love ourselves then how can we expect to love others.  It is your goal right now.
Be well and stay safe

1 comment:

  1. Thank you for writing this. I feel I recently reached a new height of awareness, with new sets of problems to overcome.
    I just ended a 4 year relationship with an amazing person because my love for an ex resurfaced after 6 years of suppression. It's probably just wishful thinking, but I feel like we have a psychic connection. I told her how I felt, and she didn't respond. I respect her enough to leave her alone now, but in my heart I know we were made for each other. Should I just live alone happily knowing I met that person? I don't want to disturb her if she's moved on now, but if there's a chance she feels this way too, I want to show her and the world that true love does exist. Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this, and I appreciate it in advance if someone has any advice to offer.